Workplace Bullying

Bullying is a high profile and key issue in education. It figures highly on the political agenda for schools, education authorities and the government. More than ever we see and hear about the tragic effects of bullying through the media. Bullying damages lives and health.  If you are an adult being bullied it can also damage and affect your career.

Most people will have experienced some form of bullying in their lifetime. It might be physical, verbal or emotional but what links them is the effect on the victim - stress, low self-esteem and depression.

In many ways physical bullying is possibly the easiest to deal with. It leaves physical scars and so can be proved. Verbal and emotional bullying is a more stealthy and less obvious form of bullying. Children who suffer any form of bullying in schools are given support and protection. Reports are kept and action is taken.

Bullying in schools is not confined to pupils. Staff suffer too. I believe that workplace bullying against staff in schools is increasing. However, many instances go unreported and unnoticed because adults do not want to be seen as weak victims, the adult perpetrators are skilfull and devious and many victims will simply walk away rather than speak out.

It is essential that anyone who feels that they are being bullied or intimidated in their workplace keep records. Written and dated records are best but also tell someone, a colleague, your GP, union rep, friend or loved one. Share your concerns. However, most of all keep written and dated records.

The first instinct when suffering at the hands of a bully is to doubt yourself, your skills, ability and possibly even your mind. Did they really mean to imply that you were not up to the job? Or were they really referring to Colleague X? This self-doubt is a significant effect of the bullying. The slow drip effect can be extremely damaging to one's physical and emotional wellbeing.

What can you do to help improve your situation?

Plan ahead. Give yourself a goal to work towards to alleviate the constant worrying.

Spruce up your CV. You are not giving in - you are moving onwards and upwards if you want to. Your life is your own with you in charge.

Call your union rep and discuss the situation and your concerns. Listen to their advice and take any support that is offered.

If you are experiencing any signs or symptoms of stress, anxiety or depression then see your doctor. If you have access to counselling then speak with them too.  Consider getting counselling if you haven't already.

Get plenty of sleep.

Eat a healthy diet.

Ensure you have a life outside of the workplace. This step is extremely important if you have been a workaholic whose job has been a major part of your life.

Know that you have not done anything wrong. Do not doubt yourself. Smile. Try and keep calm. Do not give the bully anything that they can use as amunition against you. If they want to speak to you then try and ensure that there is a colleague with you.

Workplace bullies are at their strongest when you are alone with them. Try not to give them any opportunity to be alone with you.

Share your experiences. You are not alone.